Monday, February 13, 2012

In honor of the new bill for gay marriage being signed today: A story of coming out and so much more…

Defining Sexuality

“I think you are too young to know this,” he shifted in his chair, 2763 miles away. “It would be best if you saw a counselor.”

“No, this is a part of me.” The words dragged visibly on the computer screen, lagging slightly. My throat tightened. “I’m attracted to girls,” I asserted in sign language.

Webcam communication was far from ideal, but my father lived on the other side of the country. He moved away when I was ten and rarely visited; he didn’t know me. Furthermore, my old school Asian parents were hearing-impaired conservative baby-boomers. They didn’t approve; the Great Wall of generation gaps and traditional culture stood in the way.

And here I was, their uncomfortably self-aware, first generation Asian-American daughter who had just spent the day immersing herself in an environment alive with optimism and acceptance: Seattle’s Gay Pride Festival.

That day, I explored a new facet of myself that I welcomed with curiosity and fascination. After a three-mile trek and an hour crammed on a sweaty bus, I arrived. The Seattle Center was a breath of new found liberty and immediate comfort. The feeling resonated with me. Whatever hesitation I felt washed away as I stood by the central fountain. I christened myself as a part of the community, and we celebrated.

However liberated I felt at Pride, I understood that it wasn’t something I could magically shape into anything my parents could understand. We were the old and the new, separated by religious values and varying degrees of education. I wanted them to know, to love me regardless of my sexuality. I didn’t understand why I had to convince them otherwise or why I had to hide this incredible part of myself from the rest of my family. This is who I am. I trusted my feelings. I knew, but I couldn’t explain it; the words were too slippery to describe.

Here I am now. Define sexuality?

My sexuality is a revolution. It is a dinner table conversation. By coming out, I surrendered who I was, to the person I always was.

I am far greater than a definition. I am multi-dimensional. I strive to transcend the social ideals. I’ll never wait to be old enough to know better. Here I am. My sexuality is a revolution. 

Teen Link wants to recognize all the courageous youth who are coming out and finding pride in being who they are in a world that isn't always accepting. 
We wanted to let you know that we are behind you. 
Teen Link in open every night from 6-10pm if you ever want a safe place to talk. 

Also, below we have included a list of other helpful resources for LBGTQ youth:
  1. Camp for queer youth or youth coming from queer families/gay parents-
  2. LBGTQ Youth Center on Capitol Hill-
  3. Ingersoll Gender Center for Trans Youth/Adults- 
  4. Seattle Counseling Services for Sexual Minorities:
 For more information visit our website:

LASTLY but definitely not least: 
For more information on the new Equal Marriage Bill that was just signed today see:


  1. Great post! FYI, the link you've posted to the website for Camp Ten Trees is not working. Here's the site address: