Saturday, October 13, 2012

Dating Violence: The Red Flags You NEED To Know to Protect Your Friends

Dating Violence
Red Flags of Teen Dating Violence
For friends…
  • Their boyfriend/girlfriend calls them names or puts them down in front of others.
  • Their boyfriend/girlfriend acts extremely jealous when they talk to friends of the opposite sex, even when it is completely innocent.
  • Your friend often cancels plans at the last minute, for reasons that sound untrue.
  • Your friend frequently apologizes for their boyfriend/girlfriend.
  • Your friend’s boyfriend/girlfriend is constantly checking up on them, calling or texting and demanding to know where they have been.
  • You’ve seen the boyfriend/girlfriend lose their temper, maybe even get violent when they’re mad.
  • Your friend is always worried about upsetting their boyfriend/girlfriend.
  • Your friend is giving up things that used to be important to them, such as spending time with friends or other activities, and is becoming more and more isolated.
  • Your friend’s weight, appearance or grades have changed dramatically.
  • Your friend has injuries they can’t explain, or the explanations they give don’t add up. 

What you can do if you know someone in an abusive relationship:
It’s important to realize that it isn’t easy to leave an abusive relationship. Make sure to keep in contact with your friend, since abusers often try to cut off their close relationships. They may be defensive when you bring up the topic, but try to show concern for your friend. Call the police if you think that your friend is in serious physical danger. If your friend leaves the abusive relationship, it is important to be very supportive to them.

If you have a friend who you notice is being abusive or controling to their partner take that step up and say something. Sitting by and watching our friends treat their significant others with disrespect isn't fun. By allowing this to happen we are signaling that is okay for them to do this kind of behavior. Domestic violence can ruin the lives of the victims, as well as their abusers. To break this cycle we need to step up and help people on both sides learn that this kind of behavior isn't okay before they do something that may permanently hurt their partner and themselves.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline is a confidential and anonymous hotline that is open 24 hours a day and 365 days a year. On their website, they are aware that computers could be monitored so they even give the option to quickly escape the page, and give them the hotline number:

National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1800799SAFE (7233) or 
TTY 18007873224

The website has resources for those seeking help in your specific area and have guidelines for safety planning, personal safety with an abuser, and guidelines for leaving an abusive relationship.

The Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence (WSCADV) is another resource for domestic violence. It assists domestic violence victims and their families. It also gives the option to quickly leave the website for those who are worried about computer monitoring. WSCADV informs prevention and education organizations, government agencies, the media and others about domestic violence.

800-562-6025 — Washington State Domestic Violence Hotline

It provides a list of programs for victims of domestic violence depending on your county (in Washington State). It also offers links to helpful websites such as, which is a website for survivors and advocates to help make ends meet and how to stay safe at work.

Also, if you need any other resources or just want to talk, you can also call Teen Link. We are open every night from 6-10pm pacific standard time. Our number is 1866TeenLink or 1866-833-6546.

Friday, October 5, 2012

Check yourself before you wreck yourself

I wanted to do some sort of research about drugs and alcohol and how it effects teens especially just to learn more about it. I found this really cool website that I think is a really good resource so I thought I’d share. It’s called Check and they basically say they are "a place for teens to check out where they are with drugs and alcohol." I spent a lot of time reading and watching some of their videos and it is actually really cool. They have good videos and info, but the coolest things are the "Moments of Truth" and "Stories" tabs. They are basically testimonials of teens that have done drugs/ alcohol and how addiction affected them or they talk about their recovery. Anyone can submit something to the Moments of Truth, which are stories of when someone realized they needed help (there are 1364 of them). The Stories are a collection of much longer real life drug stories from teens who work with the organization. They also have links to drug info and they have resources listed for getting help. Check it out.

Also, just for fun... you should probably see this. :)